Posts by just fine

You deserve to be with someone who can respect your differences and love you anyway. This person is going to ask you to change all of your beliefs and who you are as a person. The cost is too high.

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Newspaper is interested in interviewing me!!!

by dubstepped in

a friend and client and former politician just called me.

he knows people in the media and had offered a few months back to see if anyone would be interested in doing a story on what i'm doing through my podcasts this jw life" and "shunned".

of course i was excited but things take time and you never know if they'll pan out.

Congrats! 🎉 I hope it all works out. The “Watchtower” banks on those of us who leave to be ashamed and afraid to speak out. Those days are over, we have done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of.

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Help Elders poking nose in

by Formerbrother in

jw
friends

what can i do when elders want to poke their nose in?.

they want to have another chat with me and my wife, but we dont want to, it just gets us down..

just fine

I was will confirm the private and personal line works. My father was previously an elder and he is the one who put me on to that phrase when I was still in.

Whenever anyone tried to stick their nose in my business this was the nice way of saying mind your own business.

If they push it shake your head, smile, then say “I’m sorry but this is a private matter not open for discussion”. And walk away, hang up the phone or close the door.

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Columbia, SC and Arleta, CA members - I need your help

by RunAwayDaughter in

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friends

my 18-year-old daughter in columbia, sc ran away to arleta, ca to move in with jw family.

they are living together with the mother's permission in her house along with 10 other family members.

she is surrounded by jws 24 hours a day, seven days a week.. is there anyone in the columbia area who would be willing to help me - maybe meet for a cup of coffee or facetime.

just fine

I think mom has already made it clear that daughter is going to be punished for moving out. Mom stated in a previous thread that she has already rescinded the college fund daughter had and reallocated it to her youngest son. Mom also is withholding identification from daughter.

My advice is to stop being vindictive towards your daughter, painting her as the bad guy and you as the victim. Like it or not she is an adult, and while this is most likely a mistake, intentionally making her life harder is not going to facilitate reconciliation.

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Cousin's Runaway Girlfriend Living with us

by RunAwayDaughter in

jw
friends

my cousin's girlfriend moved from another state and is now living in our home.

they said she lived in a bad situation, but i don't believe them.

my cousin lies.

just fine

Not sure it’s any of your business. Therefore I think you should mind your own business.

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I'm getting disfellowshipped

by Letty in

hi everyone i'm 19 year old and i've been a jehovahs witness for 3 years now.

i've followed the rules and i'm even a pioneer.

but i've hid the secret of a boyfriend i had from india.

just fine

They want to keep you off balance emotionally so they can manipulate you. If you get kicked out of your house you find a new place to live. The religion tries to scare you into thinking it will be the end of the world if you leave. It won’t be. Do you have any work mates that might be looking for a roommate? Whatever short term solution you find doesn’t have to be forever, it just has to be safe and something you can afford. One step at a time......

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I'm getting disfellowshipped

by Letty in

hi everyone i'm 19 year old and i've been a jehovahs witness for 3 years now.

i've followed the rules and i'm even a pioneer.

but i've hid the secret of a boyfriend i had from india.

just fine

Deep breath. It’s all going to be ok, it will never be the same, but you will be ok no matter what happens. Make a plan for yourself if you should happen to get disfellowshipped.

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The laziness of JW parents....

by stuckinarut2 in

it struck me that the society has created a culture of lazy jw parenting.. rather than parents being there to guide and direct and help their children through all stages of life, the gb / society has become the "go-too" for everything.. if the child has an issue, there is a wt article for that.. does the child need help with something else?

ah, there is a caleb and sophia cartoon for that.. what about that other topic?

ah, there is a book for that.. so rather than being present parents, the average jw parent simply outsources their parenting to the organization!

just fine

I think the bigger issue with the JW brand of parenting is they think everyone is the same, their thoughts, feelings, and reactions are all the same according to the Watchtower. IRL that’s never true and each child/person deserves to have their own unique situation, personality, and feelings taken in to account.

Oh and the answer to everything is do more Watchtower related activities.

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Solicitors Visit Update

by pale.emperor in

in case you're not aware of my last two threads:.

the situation that arose in that my mother has been having secret access to my daughter and refusing to tell me how she is: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5012900121935872/am-overreacting-here.

the build up to my solicitors visit: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/6284953638666240/solicitors-appontment-tomorrow-advice-appreciated.

just fine

😀 So happy for you. I tell my DF’d relatives that they do not have to let our JW relatives treat them disrespectfully.